I love to snuggle up with my husband in the evenings and watch a good show on Netflix. It’s just so nice to curl up with him and relax after a day of running around the house doing whatever needs doing, running the kids wherever they need to go, making sure homework gets done, dinner is fixed and cleaned up, etc. It’s comforting. It’s safe. It’s my happy place. We sit together and unwind while watching comedies and crime, love stories and life stories.
Most of the things we watch involve couples of various ages and stages. Most of the time, my husband and I look at each other and say, wow, I’m so glad we aren’t like that as a couple! So many of the couples portrayed on television these days are a less than stellar example of what a loving, committed couple should look like. We as wives need to be careful of who we look up to in this fallen world. Often, the couples on TV are disrespectful of each other, quick to anger and defense, and selfishness prevails rather than love and compassion. The “virtuous wife” spoken of in Proverbs 31:10 is indeed hard to find if you’re looking at the television. Our society glorifies their definition of “strong women.” The definition of a strong woman according to today’s society seems to be this: a woman who leads her man around by his nose, telling him what to do and how to do it, doing what she wants when she wants to do it, and generally living life on her own terms. Television characters like Laura on the Walking Dead, Lily on How I Met Your Mother, Cersei Lannister on Game of Thrones, Temperance Brennen on Bones, and Alison on Medium are examples of society’s definition and ideal as far as strong women are concerned. I don’t think there is anything wrong with watching these shows, but I do think that we need to be very careful about idealizing these characters and emulating them. It should be our daily prayer as wives for the Lord to shape us into the biblical version of a strong woman.
If you read through Proverbs 31:10-31, you will see exactly how God defines a strong woman. His Word tells us that this kind of woman is so valuable that she can’t even be compared to one of the most precious gemstones known to man! I don’t know about you, but I would far rather be this valuable to my husband than to try and emulate society’s standards and fall despairingly short of God’s.